Wednesday, October 23, 2019
A picture is worth a thousand words
You've heard it so many times that it sounds trite. But a picture really IS worth a thousand words. And if a dream is a very special kind of picture, how much is IT worth?Maybe more? What about very simple pictures and very simple dreams? No doubt they're worth a little bit less than complex, elaborate ones. Or are they?In my psychotherapy course one day, I presented my undergraduate students with these questions. Ã¢â¬Å"Here's a very simple dream from a psychotherapy client I worked with years ago. I won't tell you anything about the client. I'll just tell you his dream, and then lets see what we can discover about him by exploring itÃ¢â¬ ¦Ã¢â¬ ¦ O.K? Here's the dream:Ã¢â¬ Ã¢â¬Å"I was wearing a white shirt and a purple tie.Ã¢â¬ The students just stare at me, expecting more to come. Ã¢â¬Å"No,Ã¢â¬ I explain, Ã¢â¬Å"that's it. That's the dream. Now let's start to explore it.Ã¢â¬ I then lead them through a group process of free associating to the dream (much like I describe on the Working and Playing with Dreams Page). Ã¢â¬Å"Just let your imagination go. Take every element of the dream and just let your mind wander on it. Whatever comes to mind. Don't censor anything, that's important.There is no right or wrong. It can be a fun, playful exercise Ã¢â¬â although the results sometimes may be serious and powerful. Freud thought that free association bypasses the defenses of rational, logical thinking and unlocks deeper links within the unconscious. It opens one up to fantasy, symbolism, and emotion Ã¢â¬â the very place from which dreams spring.Ã¢â¬ Here is a list of some of the associations the students come up with. For the purpose of this article I've organized them somewhat, whereas during the actual exercise the ideas surface in a much more freewheeling stream of consciousness:PURPLE Ã¢â¬ ¦. royalty, bruises, choking, holding one's breath, grief, a combination of blue and pink, goes well with black, The Color of PurpleTIE Ã¢â¬ ¦. formal att ire, going to work, phallic symbol, tied up, being tied to something, chokes the neck, confiningPURPLE TIE Ã¢â¬ ¦. unconventional, stands out, rebellious, showing offWHITE Ã¢â¬ ¦. clean, pure, unstained, Ã¢â¬Å"good,Ã¢â¬ lightSHIRT Ã¢â¬ ¦. the top part, covered up, tucked in, stuffed shirt, where are the pants?WHITE SHIRTÃ¢â¬ ¦. conventional, boring, going to work, going to church, corporate AmericaWHITE SHIRT AND PURPLE TIEÃ¢â¬ ¦. unusual combination, contradictory combination, very unconventional, tie really stands outDEPLETION?Ã¢â¬ ¦. there's nobody else in the dream, it's so static, there's nothing happening, where are the feelings?After we finish this free associating, I then describe the client to the class.At the time Dan had the dream, he was 23 years old. I would describe him as a quiet, held-back person who was very confined (the tie) in how he talked, behaved, and felt towards others. Put bluntly, people found him rather boring to be with (white shirt). His emoti onal and interpersonal life were choked (the tie).He had almost no friends and felt little connection to his family (the tie again). Other than going to his tedious job (white shirt) as a low level technician for a computer company, essentially nothing was happening in his static, uneventful life (depletion).Dan was also very limited in understanding anything but the most surface, top-level (shirt) characteristics of his personality. Although outwardly conventional in how he dressed and acted at his job (white shirt), secretly he felt rebellious against authority (purple tie on white shirt) and generally superior (purple) to most people.He liked to think of himself as a political activist who firmly believed in the rights of abused (purple) people and felt more tied to them than anyone else. Comparing outside to inside, he was a bit of a contradiction (white shirt on purple tie).